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Wednesday, December 30, 2009

Teacher Conferences: My Love and Hate Relationship


I will be completely honest I have a love hate relationship with teacher conferences, report cards coming home and IEP (individualized education plan) meetings.

Being the mom to what we call a puzzle child never makes these events ones I look forward to. What mother wants to hear the shortcomings of their child whether it be academics, social skills, physical abilities or_________? None that I have ever meet.

We moms of puzzle children have to dig deep and hang onto the positives, the smallest accomplishments, the milestones that are finally accomplished even if they are years behind what society calls normal.

Last month I attended our two youngest boys Teacher conferences. When I sit in meetings and the topic is Caleb our puzzle child I often have to bite my lip and hold back saying more then I should.

I look at these specialist/teachers wondering if they are telling me everything there is about my child's lack of accomplishments, if they are advocating enough for my child, if they are as concerned as I am, if they truly understand my frustrations and fears and mostly I wonder if they are telling me everything there is available to us with a child that has an IEP (individualized education plan). I leave these meetings always feeling like isn't there more our school system should be offering for the puzzle children.

Now don't misunderstand me I feel very fortunate that Caleb is in the school he is , to have the teachers and specialist he has, to know that he is happy and feels secure at school each day. I only question the system and does the system keep our teachers from really giving our children the best education they need and deserve. How many times have I heard "He doesn't qualify!" yet knowing he is in need of the additional services. Does that mean my child is actually being denied the same education of the non-puzzled children or the highly capable children?

I often feel I am alone on this journey, advocating for my child in a system that I am not fully aware of what it has to offer him or what I should expect from the system.

What happened to no child left behind? How does one look me in the eyes and say "We are giving him all the services he qualifies for". Yet, he is getting further and further behind his classmates.

I can assure you that as I attend each Teacher conference, IEP meeting and see my child's report cards I will continue to be his advocate, I will continue to discover the system that I am not fully aware of. I will not give up on or give into the system when it comes to my child or your child.

Do you have a puzzle child in your world? What are your thoughts and concerns about the education your child is receiving?

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3 Comments:

Blogger Diane {createdbydiane.blogspot.com} said...

Interesting I would read right when I did, I was just discussing this with my parents today.
Have you ever read no child left behind? It basically states that they will teach a child to read (ok I may be a little harsh, but I read it {Yes it's a lot to read} that pretty much sums it up. They are truly not advocates for your child, YOU are and the more information you know the better off you are. As you can see I could go on for days, I struggle every meeting I go to for my kids, wish I had more quick answers to give you-I fought for over 3 years to get my daughter help and I wish every day someone would really help her! If you'd like to discuss more feel free to email me I read your post and feel like I'm right there with you.

December 30, 2009 at 8:10 PM  
Blogger Linda K said...

I had a puzzle child also. The school refused to test him for special ed for years because he would then be "labeled". He was already labeled because he was gifted but that didn't make life any easier for him. I finally got him tested in 7th grade so I would stop bugging them. By that time he was uninterested in learning. He finally got kicked out of regular high school for nonattendance. I got him into a school where he could work at his own pace and he flourished. He was able to graduate. Now he is almost 26 and the most wonderful person you could imagine.

Don't give up with the school. Make sure you keep after them to provide the quality education your son deserves.

December 30, 2009 at 8:39 PM  
Blogger JDaniel4's Mom said...

I think No Child Left Behind has gone through budget cuts or at least the people who have to implement them did.

December 31, 2009 at 11:18 AM  

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