By Leslie Fetters
When did you first think
about chores for your kids? Did you have a great plan from the time they were
born and you implemented it perfectly? Or maybe it was quite different. It was at a playgroup when another mom
casually asked, “What chores do your kids do?” Did you feel confused, frustrated,
defensive or guilty? Often, we work so hard to make sure our kiddos are fed,
bathed, clothed, at appointments on time and finish their homework that time
for “their” chores seems impossible to find.
Are any of the following your excuse:
My kids are still too young for chores – Children are never too young to understand that in
a family, everyone helps out.
Toddlers can pick up toys, put clothes in the hamper, turn the TV off,
help set the table and turn on the dishwasher. Most bigger chores build upon a
series of these baby steps anyway.
just faster to do it myself – Probably
true. And you do the job “right.” However, if you put some time into training
them now, you’ll be rewarded with a child used to carrying his share of the
household load. This will help when life inevitable gets moving faster and
faster as the kids grow.
already know how to do chores –
Knowing how to do something is very
different than being able to do
something. Everything from sweeping to toilet cleaning to laundry takes some
practice. Learning these skills at home from mom (or dad) better prepares them
for living on their own some day.
don’t need the help – You might not need
those extra hands but instead of sparing them the effort, you’re denying them
the opportunity to work for the good of the household. It is that contribution that makes them
feel needed and important to the strength of the family. Work with the team –
win with the team!
These may be excuses you’ve
used before. But I encourage you
to grab hold of a better vision for your family: one full of skilled,
responsible members who can get the job done so there’s time for fun!
Labels: Chores, Parenting